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Mom Was Right
Summer
2001
by Bruce Fellman
Many
of us grew up hearing the venerable axiom, "Money can't buy happiness."
But to look at modern life, it appears that a sizable number of
adults believe quite the opposite.
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The
main source of happiness is friends and family, not a raise
or new car.
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The bursting
of the dot.com bubble and the slide of the stock market notwithstanding,
a majority of people in the United States, as in many developed
countries, are richer than they've ever been. And yet, when social
scientists measure the happiness quotient of the population, they
report something paradoxical.
"Amidst
the satisfaction people feel with their material progress, there
is a spirit of unhappiness and depression haunting advanced market
democracies throughout the world," says Robert E. Lane, the Eugene
Meyer Professor Emeritus of
Political Science and an expert in the study of well-being in industrialized
societies.
In The
Loss of Happiness in Market Democracies (Yale University
Press, 2000), Lane analyzes data from sources as disparate as questionnaires
and brain scans which demonstrate that mom was right. "Once you
get past the poverty level, there's no correlation between increased
wealth and greater happiness," says Lane. "If anything, it's quite
the reverse."
This
relationship is no surprise to therapists, but it certainly calls
into question the tenets of utilitarianism, the 18th-century political
philosophy articulated by Jeremy Bentham who believed that the goal
of society is the greatest happiness of the greatest number of people -- the philosophy that undergirds Western democracies. "Bentham
thought that money was the source of happiness," says Lane. "But
that's not what the research shows."
Lane
and his colleagues measure what they call subjective well-being
(SWB) with surveys that ask respondents whether they are happy or
not, as well as how satisfied they are with their emotional lives
and their achievements. These answers are validated by asking similar
questions of family members, friends, and co-workers. Recently,
it has also become possible to use magnetic resonance imagery techniques
to watch the brain at work. Happiness, incidentally, shows up on
the left side of the brain.
The several
decades of investigations summarized in Lane's book make it clear
that a large raise in pay or a new BMW keeps only a fleeting smile
on the recipient's face. "These promise so much but they don't deliver,"
notes Lane. "The main source of longterm happiness is friends and
family."
This
conclusion points to a modern dilemma that helps account for the epidemic of unhappiness. In Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival
of American Community, Harvard sociologist Robert Putnam, one
of Lane's former students, documents the trend away from participation
in civic, religious, and social organizations. "We are endowed by evolution for human contact," says Lane, "but the marketplace is
a distraction that keeps us from focusing on people and relationships."
The researcher explains that democracies can help restore a balance by such measures
as mandating better parental leave policies and preventing companies
from pulling up stakes and destroying communities. Individuals might
boost their own SWB levels by singing in the choir, joining the
Elks, or spending more time around the water cooler and less time
in the cubicle.
Still,
given the downward trend of the last 30 years, Lane doesn't expect
a renaissance of happiness anytime soon. "I'm hoping for a five
percent increase per decade," he says.  |